Don’t do it!!! - Posted by Ron M
Posted by Ron M on December 08, 2003 at 22:25:25:
Hi Deb,
I titled this message “Don’t do it” because I have done it and so have a whole lot of other people.
What is “it”? “It” is renting to a friend or relative. Especially, if you want them to stay friends.
Friends are much more important than money. You can stockpile money, but friendship has to be earned and it becomes very fragile when it comes to a landlord / tenant relationship of any kind.
It all starts out as a “good idea”, but then when they want to do something to the property and you don’t want them to do it, either you end up compromising or they end up resenting you. If they are 3 days late with the rent, because of (insert legitimate reason here) and you have to give them a 3 day notice to pay rent or vacate, it is you who turns out to be the bad guy in their minds. Or worse, you don’t give them the notice because you know that you will be the “bad guy” with them for doing it.
This is not a “win-win” it is a “win-lose” and the outcome is guaranteed. You Lose! The game is fixed by human nature. When I did it, the last time, it ended up costing my business over $4,000.00. The reason I say the last time is because like most really nice guys, I hadn’t learned from my own mistakes. I thought “this time it will be different”. But it wasn’t, and it won’t be for you either.
Odds are good that you will totally ignore this advice. I can tell from your messages and your prompt responses that you are a “nice person” too. It is going to be much easier for you to be the “bad cop” now and Not rent the home to your friends than it will be to be the “bad cop” after they are living in your property and you realize that you are paying almost as much of the mortgage as they are, and things didn’t go according to plan.
The real bonus of taking this advice is you get to keep your friends for sure.
I sincerely wish you the best and know that renting the property to friends is not the best.
Ask any other investor in the world, and I would be extremely surprised if you ever got any advice different from what I have just given you.
Please, let me know how things go for you.
Very Truly Yours,
Ron McIntire
OwnerListed.com