Unwilling Spouse - Posted by Joel

Posted by jeff on June 22, 2002 at 15:46:33:

this is funny on so many plains. LOL

first thing to do is find out exactly what her problem with it is? has she given you a logical argument against it?

Unwilling Spouse - Posted by Joel

Posted by Joel on June 22, 2002 at 14:52:24:

What is the best solution in dealing with a spouse who it totally against the idea of investing with No Money Down?
We don’t have the cash to throw down on a property, and doing a few quick flips in my area would greatly help; however, she won’t even agree to an ad in the paper to help generate leads.
I know it sounds like I’m a wimp here and that I should just set my foot down… has anyone out there dealt with this type of situation? How do I convince her?

Re: Unwilling Spouse - Posted by Matt L. (STL)

Posted by Matt L. (STL) on June 24, 2002 at 14:51:12:

I had the same problem with my wife. I took her to this years CREOnline convention and that ended all arguments. We met so many great, sucessful people! Every woman she talked to told her to trust me.
Lately she has been listening to the tapes from my courses and doing my advertising.
Playing Cashflow also really helps. It’s kind of a visual demonstration of how this business works. It’s FUN too!
Good luck to you
Matt L.(STL)

Re: Unwilling Spouse - Posted by Clare Z

Posted by Clare Z on June 23, 2002 at 16:20:43:

I have the same situation, but in reverse (gender-speaking, that is). When you figure this out, let me know.

He is pretty much unwilling to talk about it. I am trying to get enough of my own money together so it is not an issue. His biggest fear is a problem with our finances and credit based on deals - find out what her fears are and see if that can be overcome.

Good luck,


Re: Unwilling Spouse - Posted by John

Posted by John on June 23, 2002 at 24:14:09:

Whats that saying again? “A Confused Mind Always Says No” Maybe leave this saying in the kitchen somewhere or stick it to the shower stall? I don’t have this problem with my wife but if I did, thats what I would do.

Re: Unwilling Spouse - Posted by Earl

Posted by Earl on June 22, 2002 at 18:15:14:

Just my $0.02 - ya gotta be careful with this one - doing a lot of great deals at the expense of losing your spouse could be a big shot in the foot - as Yogi Berra said, don’t make the wrong mistake.

You didn’t mention if you have a full time JOB or not and if that takes a lot of time away from your fmaily - and how many kids you have and how labor-intensive they are, etc. Maybe that is what might be bugging her?

But I think my spouse got sold on CREI when she saw how much $ I’ve been making very part time while I take care of our 2 young kids full time while she works. And it didn’t hurt leaving a cy. of Rich Dad Poor Dad around the house and letting her glance at it and see how much time Rich Dad had for his family while Poor Dad didn’t.

Re: Unwilling Spouse - Posted by phil fernandez

Posted by phil fernandez on June 22, 2002 at 16:07:40:

You’ll probably get resistence until you do your first couple of deals and flash your profits in front of her. In the meantime, have her check in on this site, so she may see that this stuff is not smoke and mirrors. Also have her read all of the success stories in the Success Stories Section of this site.