Re: Coping with Negative feedback - Posted by Rob
Posted by Rob on January 31, 2005 at 13:36:29:
First of all you definetly have to respect your wifes feelings. I’m not saying that you don’t, but I just had to start off with that. If she wants to go to college, I would encourage that. Education is something no one can take from you. You educate yourself purely because you want to be educated. Attending college will also have benefits such as GURANTEED student loans and health insurance. Also, a part time job will be easy to get on campus. Both my wife and I get paid to go to school, we are graduate students though. Still, you could hook up with the right professor and get paid to do undergraduate research (your expenses would be free while getting paid).
I do understand why your wife is afraid, because I used to feel the same way and at times still do. Most of us feel debt is an ugly thing and can be. But knowing how to use debt will make you rich. Trump and Bill Gates owe millions of dollars in loans and such. Trump got started with a $200,000 loan from his father.
One thing is for sure, people will always need a place to live and GOD is not creating anymore land. I would sit down and write down all of your objectives as it realtes to real estate investing. Sort of develop a business plan that you will share with your wife. She will after all be your business partner. Have your facts down in black and white.
The one thing that changed my life was when I realized the whole concept of OPM (other peoples money). My wife knew about this but I did not. We met an older couple that was selling a nice house in a historic area. The asking price was $75,000. My wife and I went to look at the house and I asked the couple how much they paid for it. They actually told me, it was $5,000. And to top it off, they purchased it with a credit card with interest only payments. They off course put some sweat equity into it, but when they where finished it was worth every bit of $75,000.
When you get those checks in the mail from Citifinancial or Household Finance or whoever telling you to just cash the check. Keep them, if you have enough of them you could buy a property all cash. You can do anything you want with a property if you pay all cash (refi-cash out whatever)since there will be no lien on the property (you own it free and clear). Save all of credit card advertisements you get. Some have a credit line up to $10,000.
Your wife believes in you obviously, you just have to try and make her feel as comfortable as possible. You can probably do that by putting a solid plan together including a projected cash flow statement for your new business.
There are risks to investing as you know, but would the alternative of spending the rest of your like making someone else rich be better. I’ve told my wife a few times that when the good Lord decides to take me away from here, the one thing everyone will remember about me is that I tried.
I hope this helps just a little.