Re: 1st one feel through…NEXT! - Posted by Matt B
Posted by Matt B on February 09, 2001 at 12:59:19:
How about telling your fiancee that you have just found one more way that a deal won’t work. If you run into that same situation again, you will know how to handle it. Giving up when things get rough is what the majority of people do. It’s quick, easy, and painless to quit. On the other hand, sticking with it is hard. It’s painful, can take a while, and can be difficult.
Sounds like fun, right? Well, how about being stuck in a job where someone else rules your time? How about always chasing that “better paying job” until you realize that no matter how much you make, you still don’t have any money at the end of the month? Is that stuff fun?
Sticking with your goals should be the most rewarding process. Not even accomplishing your goals should be as rewarding as the process of getting there. If you don’t like the things you have to do to get a deal signed, then maybe you should stick to a job. (Or your fiancee in this case.) Do you like your job? If you do, why leave it for the “discomfort” of trying to find real estate deals?
I had an e-mail conversation with someone that I am helping to get a start in the real estate game, and she mentioned that she couldn’t believe my generosity in offering to call sellers responding to her ads, taping the conversations, and playing them back for her to learn what to say to sellers. I told her that the reason I was doing this was because I LOVE real estate. I can’t get enough of it. It’s an obsession of mine now. I now love to call sellers and find out if they are motivated and see if I can get them to consider a creative deal. I love getting in front of sellers and explaining how I am going to fix their problem and their worries are over. I love it!
This is the very same stuff that used to scare the crap out of me. I used to hate getting on the phone and talking to sellers. However, I learned to “enjoy the process” of meeting my goals. One of my goals is financial freedom. Talking to sellers is not one of my goals. However, it does lead to the accomplishment of my goal. So I have learned to love the process of accomplishing my goal.
If you don’t enjoy this business, then why torture yourself? Find something that you do enjoy. If you’re just chasing down money, I can guarantee you that you will grow to hate this business. There are so many setbacks and weasels out there that can really discourage you. If you just want money, go play the lottery or go back to work where you know that someone will be handing you a paycheck regularly. However, if you enjoy creatively solving someone’s problems and making money while doing it, then this might be the business for you. If you enjoy challenges and learning from mistakes, this could be the right field for you.
I hope this helps you to some degree. Some people just aren’t suited to do real estate investing. Heck, I’m glad that most of the population is like that! Less competition for me! If your fiancee doesn’t want to get involved with real estate, I wouldn’t push him. Let him see your completed deals and then make a decision as to whether he wants to be involved with it or not.