been there, done that! (LONG) - Posted by Jim FL
Posted by Jim FL on July 30, 2001 at 24:47:16:
I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and going thru, been there, done that.
Bottom line if what you are doing is not working, then try something else.
This does not mean “Give up” on REI, just change your approach.
I bet you’ve been looking at houses haven’t you?
Most Sheets graduates, me included, start out this way and you see how many houses it got you.
Read all that you can here, look thru the archives on finding motivated sellers, having them find you, and marketing in general.
There is some good info here, and a ton of it works.
You also need to take care of your NEEDS today, feeding the kids, paying your rent/mortgage and living expenses.
So, if getting a job, either full or part time is what it takes, do it.
Just do REI in your time away from the J.O.B.
It can be done, and if you manage it right, you can get away from that J.O.B. sooner, rather than later.
Trust me, if you learn a few techniques talked about on this site, and get some calls from the marketing you learn to do, deals will follow.
Just stick with it, it takes time, great effort, and persistence.
And best of luck on the divorce thing…I’m on wife number three now, and it seemed like hell getting here, but I’m happy.
I know that she and I will face obstacles, as all couples do, but I learned from my past marriages, and use it here with her.
We talk a lot more, and I make sure I take time for her and the kids.
I also try to include her in my work as best I can. I am trying to teach her how to do deals, and I share with her the details of each as they occur.
I know she gets board some times hearing it all, but she is secretly thrilled that I value her opinion and try to teach her how we make money to pay the bills. I overheard her telling her friend this at her birthday party last week. Plus she really likes the nice houses I gotten for us to live in since we met. She has never lived this well before, and proof this REI thing works is the BEST way to get someone else supporting you.
She is also grateful that I have been able to keep us both relatively unemployed since we met, by doing this.
She’s already admitted that she cannot fathom working a traditional job ever again. She thinks it would be a waste of time, and good for her, that is half the battle.
I did not do all that with the last wife, and basically shut her out to work on my business. Sure, she helped here and there, and even knew how to do some of it, but I was better at it, so I moved on without including her. I thought I could buy more houses, and get more done initially so we could get quality time together “later”, and enjoy life. I left her to take care of all the day to day stuff.
It was a mistake, but I’m better off without her now.
She found someone else who would pay more attention to her, and as they say, "When a man steals your wife, the best revenge is to let him keep her."
And I like to add one more part to that…“Be more successful, and move on with life while being happy.”
I know that I am happy, I enjoy what I do for a living, I have a GREAT new wife, and wonderful new kids, and my ex is miserable, and I don’t care.
I actually hope she finds what I was lucky enough to find, because this feeling is so awesome, it seems almost greedy to feel it everyday.
I sincerely hope that if you want to work it out with your wife, as well as make it in this business, that you try hard and make it happen.
Just remember, prioritize, making family first, business second. As long as you work hard at both, at least the REI will succeed, and you’ll have that if all else fails, as well as a clean conscience that you gave it a sincere effort with the marriage.
My conscience is clear, and I am only looking forward to future success and more of the happiness I’ve found here, with no regrets.