Re: It is a “nice” problem to have - Posted by michaela-CA
Posted by michaela-CA on February 22, 2009 at 10:08:56:
Rich,
I guess, I 'll find out ;-). I will make her give me copies of all paperwork. We only just started working together and this all kind of came together overnight, so to speak.
As much as I would love to have everything and everybody ‘perfect’, I know that that is not reasonable. Nobody is perfect, that’s the human condition. So, I try to look at the big picture and choose my battles: Is the alternative of the situation better? Are there other ‘problems’ that I would rather have than these? What’s the lesser of the 2 evils?
I know I have a higher ‘risk threshold’ than most people, but I’ve also found over the years that I like to give people a chance. When I look back at the times when I did, even though occasionally I may get screwed over, then the things I’ve gained with this approach far outweigh the losses.
So, if this PM is more pro-active than I expected, but if overall things really work out good, then I will take these little ‘hick-ups’ and look at the big picture.
For example, my carpenter: He’s ‘old school’ and that means that he doesn’t have a computer or cell phone. I even sent him a prepaid cell phone, so that we can reach each other, but he keeps it turned off in his pocket and the voicemail is not set up. He only calls me from his home phone in the evening, when it’s generally too late for me to do anything about the situation, since he’s 3 hours ahead in time.
I could be really picky about that and give him instructions to turn on the phone, but I won’t, because ‘old school’ also brings something else with it, that is very hard to find in these times: Pride and honor. He has pride in his work and is totally honest. I’ve had to kiss a lot of toads over the years. Finding a good and reliable and inexpensive carpenter is probably the most difficult quest for most rehabbers. So, I will overlook his individual traits, that may inconvenience me (and him) and be thankful that I have what I have.
The same with the PM. Yes, I will make sure that I’ll get all paperwork etc. But I will also look at the big picture’ and try to not nitpick on every little thing when I see that I’m really getting something good in the big scheme of things.
We’ll see 
Michaela