Posted by Eric C on July 30, 2001 at 11:20:37:
Hi Amy -
That’s great. Please understand that I’m not trying to be vague on purpose.
It’s just that taxes are an important subject and most of us tend to generalize, distort, and delete whenever complicated subjects are discussed.
When I say we generalize, I mean that we tend to make broad comparisons that may not be valid. For example, what tax concerns I have, may or may not impact you at all. It’s important to acknowledge that differences between scenarios, entities, and goals do exist. You will always hear about “rules of thumb” in this and in every other business. Understand that they are “memory shortcuts” designed to make seemingly complicated ideas and techniques easier to understand. In doing so, they often leave out other equally important information. Rules of thumb are great, just know their limitations.
Distortion simply refers to our habit (as human beings) to “twist” the information just a little bit; sometimes a bit too much. We try to make one thing out of another. Be careful here. Make sure that your decicsions are based on sound reasoning and not what you think somebody else is doing.
And deletion is the worst of all. “You never said that” is the mantra of all tenants, L/O’s, sellers, etc. (it’s even be known to appear in the best of relationships from time to time). Sometimes, they phrase it differently; it’s “I didn’t understand that”, or literally, “I didn’t hear that”. All these statements are usually true. They didn’t hear those things because they were mentally deleting as they went along. Ever tried to explain something really complicated to someone else, only to have them fall further and further behind (also known as becoming increasingly confused)because they’re “stuck” on something you said earlier? Think they’ve “listened to a word you said” since then?
The point is this. We all do these things. We can’t help it, but we can begin to understand ourselves a little better.
Your questions are good ones. They just don’t have the quick and simple answers you were hoping for. That shouldn’t stop you from searching.